Any way to change the transmission nanny so it doesn't engage P?

[Sarge]

While there's much I love about the X5 4.8i, I absolutely LOATHE the electronic gear selector. I hate it hate it HATE it.

One of the more maddening things that I would hope there might be a solution for is the electronic nanny that puts it in park automatically if the drivers door is open.

When I tow my boat, and try to back up a very slow speed (launching, parking, etc) It's nice to be able to open the door to peer out and/or hear people. Rolling the window down is not even remotely as effective, particularly when you're trying to tell if you've reached the point where the water is getting near the rear door sills when launching the boat.

It would seem to me that if the door is open, but the seat sensor indicates there's someone in the seat, it should NOT automatically engage PARK.

If you leave your foot on the brake slightly, it will allow the car to roll very slowly, but if you slip up and release the brake too far, it SLAMS it in park, which isn't good for the transmission OR the boat.

There's also a safety aspect to allowing the car to be moved if someone is in the driver's seat. Car jackings, road rage, etc - if someone outside the car opens the drivers door (say, at a light) the car won't let you get away - it slams itself in park, allowing an attacker to have his way with the driver.

I won't even get into how finicky it is about having your foot on the brake and engaging reverse, etc... (oh how I HATE that friking selector) - I'd just like to be able to open the door while I'm moving trailers around...

Any ideas how to change the programming or otherwise 'trick' the stupid computer?