Will out-of-state tickets count as points on my NY license?
From the DMV FAQ:

New York DMV does not record out-of-state violations committed by NYS drivers in other jurisdictions, except for out-of-state alcohol or drug-related violations (e.g. DUI) and moving violations committed in Quebec and Ontario. Therefore, except for violations in Ontario and Quebec, points are not added to your NYS record for out-of-state violations.
However, if you fail to answer a ticket or pay a fine for a moving violation in any state except Alaska, California, Michigan, Montana, Oregon or Wisconsin, your NYS license will be suspended until the ticket is answered or the fine is paid. A driver from any state, except the six listed above, will have his or her license suspended for failure to answer a moving violation summons or pay a fine in NYS.

If you are convicted of an alcohol or drug-related driving violation in any state, your NYS license will be revoked for at least six months. Otherwise, except for convictions in Quebec or Ontario under special agreements, out-of-state traffic convictions are not recorded on NYS license records and do not carry points.

That's no guarantee that your insurance company won't hear of it though.

you're good, this is from the NY DMV site:

http://www.nysdmv.com/dmvfaqs.htm#tickets

again, your insurance company might not like it if they find out, so it's best to not make any changes to your policy that might cause them to run your DMV record.

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