Start by looking at post #10 Then consider this :

I Appreciate you're effort. But your comments were of a general nature and didn't specifically address the comments noted in red which in my opinion was the essense of the whole issue about her and the reason why i posted it.

I believe we all have a working knowledge of what the role of parents is. However that was not the scope of this thread.

My effort then was to draw you out with a comment regarding the specific issue.

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