Phonebook transfer X-5, 4.8 with Sony-Ericsson.

I just purchased a 4.8, X-5 from the United States. I live in Iceland. It has a BMW assist/Bluetooth combo phonebox (Part number 694 6993- Telematic Control Unit) I just bought a Sony-Ericsson T-630 phone with software R7A011 here in Iceland. I was unable to find the same phone with the recommended R3A025 software.
My phone works fine except I can not get it to reload changes in the phonebook of the phone. Immediately after pairing it transferred the phonebook. I have tried unpairing and pairing again, but it does not help, updates to the phonebook do not transfer. It is also impossible to do this manually from the phone, because the phone says the Bluetooth connection is buisy. I also ca not delete the already imported phonebook into the car and start over. Can anybody help me out here. I hate to have to purchase a new ECE(European) version of the BMW assist. It costs about $-3000 here in Iceland (part number 6964113).
THANK YOU,
Gisli Vilhjalmsson
Iceland
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